Few days back I was in a restaurant for my lunch with my colleagues. It was supposed to be the busiest at that hour after being the most sought after one at Lazimpat area, but when we reached there it was almost empty except a couple at the corner.

We were talking our ups and downs of the career and few of us were pulling legs of our absent friends but my eyes got glued to those enjoying theirs closeness. I know it is very unhealthy to gaze at others private affairs but I just couldn't control myself because that corner was facing towards me and I had no where to look out except that. Yes, I could have looked down to my rusty table but for how long? Knowingly or unknowingly my eyes kept on watching them frequently. It seemed that they had passed just few years of their teens. Both were making clouds of cigarette around them to cover them but failed to do so, so I saw what they wanted to keep private.

Most probably they were there for long before we reached there and there was no sign of leaving that place too soon. We stayed there for an hour and half and they seemed giving damn to the crowd they were surrounded with. Most of the time they were kissing each other and tendering their love to the different parts of their body and soul.

As I could not adjust myself to that state I felt myself that I am drawn lot more years back than now. I have just passed few years completing my teens, but I felt that I am from the 15th century. I didn’t know was this only happening to me? Or everyone felt same when they got encountered with such situation. And this led me to think a very different opinion for the society where I live-in.

I felt I am the most uncultured one among all because I don't know the new development of our culture. I felt I am the most uncivilized person among all because I don’t know the means of being civic. I felt the most ashamed one among all because I don't know the definition of shame. I felt the most unsocial one among all because I don't know the society and its private and public matters. For which I could try something new, which I have not done before so that I could maintain my lifestyle, whenever I got chance to show.

So from now I will follow the rules of romance which are as follows:
Show others how deep you can love your friend.
Keep on changing your partners.
Enjoy all the don'ts of the society have maintained.
Let others know the ways of your love.
Show others that you love the way you love your love.
Try to keep very close relationship with everybody whom you sit with
Try to hunt those places which are very open with all these matters and where people gathers frequently so that everybody will know that you are in love.
And let others know that you are the one who really love and others do not.

Well, these are the main rules that I would follow from now and in between if I see any more development in this sector I will definitely follow and will let you too. I think if I really started to follow these rules then I will be no more uncultured, uncivilized, ashamed and unsocial. So what you say, I think you are also agreeing with me. Then don’t be late and open your love.

Well it all seems very funny to read but this was what I thought immediately at the same place where the incident took place. I felt that I am out of place. Any how I finished my order as fast as I could and exit out of there, but a question was floating above my head. It was "where are we heading to?"

We have just started restaurant culture in our society and it is flourishing so fast that the result can be seen in each alley of the city. So are the people participating in this as well? Now a days even middle class families visit restaurants frequently. They go along with their total families with kids too. But we have not considered yet that this lifestyle is how much effecting to the living style of the kids in both – positive and negative manners?

before we go further we need to find answer to some of the questions. do our kids know that where are they from and how? what kind of relationship can be maintained between man and woman? do they know about our history? do they need to know what they could face if they were misguided?
all remained unanswered. in fact very few of us give sex education to our children. we still feel shy to do so. that's why our children have a risk to be misguided. And if this happen where is our future. Not only sex education but we need to teach them that norms of society and the people living in. there should be behavior exercise to follow.

I have already crossed my adolescence. I have felt the air being in love with somebody, and the pain when you were ditched. Being a working woman I also know the working atmosphere of the offices and as well the idea that I pursue within my career to tackle all the problems faced through. Not only this I have also experienced the family life and the wonders of bearing a human from me. In total I have crossed my mid youth and ready to experience whatever comes in my way for my further journey calmly. But still I wonder in my past that if I was ever taught or aware of this I could have carried my life in much better way. I wouldn't have lost those years in struggling and learning of all this things, infact I could use those my cream years in something very fruitful and worthy.

It was what I felt then after, and there is no necessary that everyone who encounters with the same should feel in the same way. Views may differ and all have right to pursue different one but what happens to the kids who doesn't know anything about sex and physical attraction. What would you say if a child ask you about the same which faced? I really don't know. There may be some one who thinks I am being so backward and too traditional to live in this 21st century but we are very near to that particular period when we ask ourselves, "where we are leading to and where our roots are?"

There are lots of things to be changed in the society. We need a total change in our thinking. kissing each other in public place may show that we are quite advanced but if we just peep inside our houses there is lot of things to be changed. still our parents differ between son and daughter, still there is lack of supportive education for the girls, and there is lack of understanding behavior to the husbands. still our grandmothers bully our mothers. No matter how well we are our mothers still need an approval for small shopping's till the date. yes there is lot of changes to be made. I know people will say that this openness is the first step of it but don't you think that without sowing a seed you cannot bear a fruit. I think our young minds have forgotten this. they want to eat fruit of the sky but forgotten to made a stair to reach their.