Premarital sex is a colossal dilemma in our modern society today. All around the world, teens are not waiting until they get married to have sex, irrespective of the social and cultural norms. Today, pre-marital sex consigns almost every society in some form or the other as a "natural" method of answering intrinsic sexual inquisitiveness.
 
Moreover, teens believe sex to be cool and embark on the sexual voyage, neglecting the consequences that come along with the premature sex. This behavior of the teens had led to increasing rates of STDs, AIDS, pregnancy, abortion, and high rates of maternal and child mortality.
 
Peer pressure is a significant force making teens engage in early and unprotected sex. They engage in sexual activities because their friends are doing it. Openly, they admit that sex is a biological need and they are just following their natural instinct.
 
They argue that, “Sex is not taboo but something important to our body and life and by refraining it till marriage is no good. By spending better part of youth in dreaming and other except having sex is definitely not doing right to our body.”
 
But the great question arises. Why sex is perceived to be a great thing from the time one is young and where they got the idea that sex was such a great thing is a question that one must ask?
 
Is it from the movies or the magazines that one sees when digging through the drawers of older relatives?
 
Sex is all over the society. From books, magazines, business, sports- everything is related to sex these days. Sex sells and we cannot watch cable television without seeing people kissing intimately.
 
Today, the young ones grow up in the society, where sexual explicit magazines and pornographic movies are freely available to the youth. The Internet has opened the door to pornographic materials and most of the today’s youth are caught in sexual dilemma: To do or not to do.
 
Many teens candidly say that they are indulging in sexual activities to blossom their love life. However, sex, in contrast to popular belief, does not always lead to emotional intimacy. Many teens, who had sex before they're ready, have thorny and tedious deteriorating relationships.
 
Having sex doesn't mean that a person will stay in a relationship, and it certainly won't mend a crumbling one. It may prolong one in the short run, but cannot heal one in the long run. It can only make things worse. While maturity plays a large part in the decision to have sex, it may not be enough.
 
And to be realistic, there are lots of other diseases out there other than AIDS that are caused by having immature sex - much of which is unprotected. Sexually transmitted diseases are deadly too. Sex is the number one way AIDS/HIV spreads.
 
What teens are not realizing is that this disease is deadly and by having unprotected sex, which teenage sex often is, they too can contract this disease. Teens are very aware that this disease is out there but they do not understand that it can affect them.
 
If teen sex is taken lightly more and more teens will begin to have children out of wedlock. And those who are not married and have children don't only make their own lives harder but they also make it harder for their children to live without both of their parents there for them through the rest of their lives.
 
In some cases children are left with just one parent and have to grow up the rest of their lives feeling unwanted and miserable because their biological father or mother did not stick around. No child could comprehend the fact that their father or mother were just there to have sex.
 
An even worse case is a child who is put up for adoption. They know nothing about their real parents and are never given the opportunity to be given the love that every child deserves from their real parents.
 
Whatsoever, sex nevertheless is not totally bad. In my opinion sex should be treated like everything else and be done in temperance. Teens should learn to understand one another and understand that sex is a big step in relationships.
 
Emotionally and physically teens, being less developed before having sex are not prepared for the serious results that come along with their decision to have sex.
 
No longer is it a matter, which will just go away if we ignore it, but teen health and the health of our future society depend on choices which today's teens make regarding sex.
 
They lecture about safe sex as an alternative. But my question to all is, how safe is safe sex? With so many diseases and problems facing today's world, abstinence from premarital sex is the only reasonable and safe choice for today’s teens.
 
But let us not forget that teenage sex exists and it is now far more prevalent then ever. So the abstinence from it, in reality, wont be as easy as it looks on the paper- theoretically.