It’s a shame I don’t believe in the traditional definition of love. Life would have been much easier otherwise. Now, do not take me for a lovelorn little wretch because I am not. Actually, I am too green, impatient and wobbly in this matter.

 You meet a person, you are totally wowed by him/her, and you think you are in love and after two days, you don’t give a crap. Sometimes you are up for a relationship thinking ‘Ah well! What the hell!’ Then you just can’t commit yourself and you feel like you are betraying the other person, furthermore, yourself. Sometimes, it so happens that even if you are in love, you want to be safe, so you end up doing nothing about it. And of course, sometimes you completely lose yourself in love and do all kinds of silly things that would otherwise embarrass you.

I know I am speaking for many because I understand many of us have ‘a problem with commitment’, some may have a changeable, suspicious heart and some do not care what people think. Some people cannot just trick themselves into thinking that their feeling for a person will last forever. They just cannot deceive themselves and pretend that they can depend on their heart to be in love with someone forever.

I’m afraid I am one of them who find it hard to agree with the conventional definition of love which says that true love is the one that lasts forever. Sorry but I think that is a discriminative judgment towards love. If its love, it’s always true. Why would they call it love otherwise? If it’s not true, we have various terms to use like crush, infatuation, attraction or just lust, nothing against these feelings though.

My point is that how true the love is, has nothing to do with whether it lasts forever or not. If it lasts forever, great, if it does not, you can’t say it wasn’t true. If a couple stays together for five years and split, we cannot say that those 5 years were a lie. When they loved, they loved truly and when it stopped, they left, which is sort of the right thing to do if the feeling disappears.

There are people who fall in love easily and do not hesitate to proclaim their love shouting from the rooftops whether the love is an unrequited one. They will do all sort of fanatical things an archetypal crazy-in-love person is supposed to do. The same frenzy and madness will not remain forever. Their heart might change tomorrow and if it does, we cannot blame them for being capricious or fickle. Who knows, when they were in love, they truly, blindly and faithfully loved. Therefore, we have to think before we label a person a flirt just because he was stalking me a month ago and now he is running behind my best friend!

Each of us has our unique way of loving and expressing love. Some feel their love should be comprehended by the whole world, some reserve it in their heart forever (though it would not yield any interest), some might express it in psychotic ways and some insist they’re expressing their devotion by stalking the person they like. As they say, there are a million layers to love. I guess the obscurity in the meaning of love rather gives us freedom to exploit its meaning. So, let’s come up with an unambiguous, rock-hard definition for love, what say?